I had planned to give her a call, but the time never seemed “right.” I was going to send a note in a Thanksgiving card… then a Christmas card… but didn’t get it done. A Valentine, I thought – that will be a sweet surprise! But, no, that didn’t happen. More recently, I thought, “I know, a lovely note in an Easter card.”
She married young, had three children, was Granny to six, and now there are great-grandchildren. Her family was her life.
I never saw her without a twinkle in her eye. She always had a smile for me. When we talked, I felt I’d known her all my life, and the comfortable feeling she gave me was warm and wonderful. I sat at her kitchen table one day, and her conversation was so comfy, so warm, so down-to-earth, that I felt I had sat there with her time after time, for years. That’s all it took with her… just once. She was special. She was a lady.
She was an old-fashioned homemaker, and loved it that way. She was independent, but loved to take care of others. She spoke her mind, but so matter-of-factly that it was just fine.
Her name, in both Gaelic and in French, meant “beautiful.” And she was beautiful – inside and out. She cared about people. She took care of her family, and her home. She took care of herself – because you know, that is the ultimate compliment to those we love — to take good care of ourselves so we can be at our best for them.
She had the kind of sense of humor that made you laugh right out loud. Once, seeing a bruise on her arm, her grandson asked “Granny, what happened?!” She motioned to her daughter beside her and said “She hit me.”
I was going to send her a note, give her a call, perhaps go to visit her. But I didn’t.
I never told her how she touched my heart, how I wished I’d been her next-door neighbor, or her daughter, or niece… I never told her. Do you think she ever knew? I hope so.
Today, I went to her memorial service. At 87, nearly 88, she had a good long life. When is “long” really long enough?
Those closets will be there tomorrow, those weeds won’t be gone from your life. Forget the “to do” list, forget the “I need to.” Do the “I want to.” Never put off until tomorrow the messages of caring.
The sun has come out. It’s shining for her today, I just know it.
This morning a friend posted “Don’t forget to be awesome today!”
Yep. That’s it. Make every day awesome. Say “I love you.” Make that call. Give that hug, that smile, that little squeeze of the hand. Write that note. Send that card. Today is the only day we are given to be awesome.
Don’t forget to be awesome today…